I’ve actually never even seen the movie Bucket List, but I love the idea that it created — keeping a list of all the things you want to do or accomplish before you die. A lot of people have a list like this — you can even check out mine here — and I think it’s a really cool way to keep track of your long-term goals and maybe even come up with some crazy might-never-happen ones, too.
Going along those same lines, I decided to do something a little different… and create a Couples Bucket List for myself and Brent. Now that he and I have been dating for a while (28 months), we’re obviously not in the honeymoon phase anymore. Not to say that I’m not absolutely crazy about him or that we have a boring relationship, but I think it’s important to do things that will keep our relationship exciting.
One of the problems that comes with my disability is that I can’t do a lot of things that normal people can. It gets really frustrating personally, and sometimes I also feel like it affects my relationship with Brent as well. We end up just staying around the house most of the time, because we’re really limited in what we can do together otherwise. I love hanging out with him at home — we always make each other laugh and are able to have fun. But I can’t help but feel disappointed, and kind of guilty, that we can’t just go do things that other couples can do — like take walks, go bowling, take a trip up to Sunapee to ski, go hiking, etc.
So to solve this problem (instead of moping about it), I created this Couples Bucket List of things that I want to do with him that are enjoyable, interesting, and will help keep our relationship in the great place that it is.
Here are a few things from Brent’s and my Couples Bucket List:
- Move out of the apartment and into a house
- Buy a real bed
- Go on a picnic
- Make dinner together (once we move and have a bigger kitchen)
- Read a book out-loud to one another
- Get a cat and a dog
Obviously moving into the house together was a big one. We’ve been dreaming about this for months now, so everything has been fun, amazing, and super exciting since we finally got the keys a couple weeks ago.
Like I was telling him last night, having him with me during this whole process has seriously made me develop the hugest crush on him all over again. I know, it’s super cheesy, but ever since we’ve moved in, I’ve just been so (even more) attracted to him. He’s been incredibly helpful and caring, we’ve been working together to solve problems, and we’re creating this huge beautiful thing as a couple. The whole situation has really made our relationship grow and, I’m sure, will be an unending source of entertainment (good and bad ) for years and years to come.
We’ve also been getting really into the whole “reading a book together” idea. Brent was skeptical at first but, after I explained to him that I put it on the list because my parents used to read to each other and I saw how close it made them, he was game to try it out. It was definitely awkward at first, but we quickly got used to it. Usually I’m the one that reads, because he is better at audio comprehension than I am (and also maybe because he mumbles ), but I like it either way.
An important part of this is that, when we’re reading a book together, we have a no-technology rule. Reading (we’re doing the second Game of Thrones book right now — so good!), it’s all about togetherness and using that time to just relax and bond. It might not be for everybody, but it really works for us.
Are you in a relationship? What would be on your Couples Bucket List?